Your Problem With Guns or Gays Is Not Political

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By TLB Contributor: Robin Koerner

Last month I did something I’d done only once before: I went to a range and shot some guns. Lots of guns. All shapes, ages and sizes.

This is a very strange thing to do for a guy born British. Guns feature nowhere in British culture.

Accordingly, I was unsurprised by the reaction of my mother when I called home and told her that I’d had a great time learning about firearms and discovering I wasn’t a bad shot, even with a World War II Enfield. “That’s the last thing I’d ever imagine you’d enjoy doing,” she said to me. She wasn’t being judgmental: It was an expression of genuine surprise.

“That’s because you just can’t imagine why nice or normal people would enjoy guns,” I replied. “Because you don’t know any. No Brits know any.”

Mom thoughtfully agreed.

Many decent people who have no interest in guns simply can’t imagine what it must be like to be someone who is passionate about something whose primary purpose is to kill people. Although the gun debate is waged using words, logic and fact (by both sides, to different ends, of course), the arguments constructed using these three tools are not what brings people to their pro- or anti-gun position. Rather, most people are emotionally or intuitively committed to a position first and deploy these tools retroactively in defense of their position. Despite what we like to think, we form most if not all of our political views this way. Studies show, time and time again, that David Hume was right when he claimed:

[A]s reasoning is not the source, whence either disputant derives his tenets; it is in vain to expect that any logic, which speaks not to the affections, will ever engage him to embrace sounder principles.

What most anti-gun people are really feeling (rather than thinking) is that there has to be something strange about you if you like guns. I mean, why would you get turned on by something whose primary purpose is to kill people? If you do, you can’t be like me. You are sufficiently different that I am suspicious of your worldview, or your motives, or both. You are culturally “other.”

Productive engagement, and the pervasive acceptance of individual rights, involves bridging such cultural gaps. With the gun-rights issue, as with all others, the best way to do so is the same way all forms of cultural segregation (because that is what we are really talking about) have been permanently broken down over time: Get to know, and spend personal time with, those on the other side of the gap.

It works both ways. People who favor more gun regulation are not actually motivated by a desire to take away your liberty. And people who favor robust Second Amendment protections do not have a lower threshold for the acceptance of violence or aggression. You’ll know this when you have them as friends, and having such friends causes the all-or-nothing arguments that make such dramatic claims about the fundamental differences between you and the people on the other side of the issue cease to be credible.

This mistaking of differences of cultural identity for political differences, or the erroneous idea that political differences drive different cultural identities, rather than the other way around, severely hobbles our ability to protect all our liberties and empowers political partisans who have a vested interest in maintaining power by keeping us insolubly divided.

Just as gun owners form a kind of (albeit highly porous) subculture, the LGBT community does so too. Some people who have been brought up in a socially conservative or religious subculture simply can’t imagine being able to do (let alone actually doing) the things that those in another subculture (LGBT) do as a matter of course. Again, if I can’t even imagine your experience or desires, then we are deeply culturally separated. Just as gun-control advocates feel a twinge of disgust, or at least condescension, toward the culture of gun owners, some of our religious friends feel similarly about the LGBT subculture. Of course, “disgust” is a very strong word, and most of us sublimate it deeply, but it captures the sense that the division among our “political” subcultures is more visceral than rational. Reason is applied later to justify in the conscious mind the position that the subconscious makes us emotionally comfortable with.

Now, I have a distinctly conservative streak when it comes to the raising of children, and I have an instinctive respect for any political position that is genuinely motivated by requiring adults to do the best by the children whom they create. I can understand, then, the real discomfort of those who sincerely believe that children benefit from having male and female role models at home, and that society should be very wary of sanctioning anything that does not place the well-being of children above the proclivities of their parents.

However, two of my friends — and two of the kindest and most responsible people I know — happen to be gay partners who adopted a daughter. Phil and Michael are giving their adopted daughter a wonderful life. Their love for her is boundless. The security, values and richness of experience that they are providing her will set her up forever. And the gap between the life that Mia Joy has and the life she would otherwise have had makes the general question “Should gay couples be able to adopt?” sound like something between silly and faintly insulting when applied to this particular, inspiring case.

I am blessed with close gay friends with whom I identify as much as I do with many of my straight friends. So for me the question of gay marriage and adoption, for example, is not so much a political argument that needs logically “deciding”; rather, the very intuition of the existence of some gay “other” on which the very argument depends has disappeared. As that cultural gap is bridged through actual human relationship, the separateness of that “other group,” on which any suspicion I may have of their motivations depends, ceases to exist.

I’ve had many gay friends for many years. And now I am getting some gun-owning friends too. And because they are all good people (they’d not be my friends otherwise, would they?), I see both groups as doing essentially the same thing when they defend their rights: insisting on being allowed to be themselves and defend the validity of the way they experience the world — as long as they harm no one else.

Of course, if you’re reading this and you don’t like guns, you’re thinking, “That’s wrong. Guns harm people.” Not in the hands of my friends, they don’t. And if you’re reading this and you don’t like gays, you’re thinking, “That’s wrong. Gay adoption is bad for the children.” Not by my friends, it isn’t.

If I were going to take a stand against gay adoption, I would have to imagine saying to Phil and Mike, “You should not be allowed to do what you have done for Mia Joy, and I would use the force of law to stop you.” Even if I could make an abstract political argument against gay adoption, I cannot say that to them in good conscience. And if I were going to take a stand against my open-carrying friend Rob, I’d have to imagine saying to him, “You should not be allowed to own that to protect your family — or to protect your country against a tyrannical state, should it ever come to that, and I would use the force of law to stop you.” Even if I could make an abstract political argument against private gun ownership, I could not say that to him in good conscience.

By becoming friends with Phil and Mike, and with Rob, their respective subcultures cease to be alien to me.

The truth is that because I know Rob as a grounded, kind man, I also know that the rest of us are better off when people like him have a few of the guns — rather than their all being in the hands of our political masters. And because I know Phil and Michael as being rather like Rob in those respects, I simply know that the rest of us are better off when people like them have a few of America’s children.

And there’s not a political argument in sight.

You’ll appreciate my delight, then, when, during my day at the range with Rob, he told me that his local organization in defense of the Second Amendment accepted the open offer made by the organizers of his city’s annual Pride event to support them by marching with them. The two groups have now formed an ongoing alliance, reflecting the fact, of course, that they are really doing the same thing: protecting the right of people to do anything they want for people they love as long as they harm no one else.

That’s when you know that you really care about liberty: The excitement of marching in support of someone who wants to protect and celebrate their freedom overcomes your “cultural discomfort” (should you have any) with what they want to do with it.

If we can challenge ourselves by focusing as much on nurturing our human connection with our political opponents by relating to them as people, we’d discover a wonderful paradox: We’d all feel, from our opposed initial positions, increased success in getting our opponents to see the world our way.

How is that possible?

It’s possible because collapsing the subcultural divides in our society through actual human relationship does something bigger and better than resolving our political differences: It dissolves them. It dissolves them because it reveals that much of what we thought were differences of political principle are really rationalizations of the suspicion we feel toward those whose experiences and pleasures we simply cannot imagine sharing.

As in history, so in psychology: Culture precedes politics.

Robin KoernerRobin Koerner is Publisher,, Founder, Blue Republican (TLB partner), Contributor to The Liberty Beacon project and Contributor to the Huffington Post, Daily Paul , Moderate Voice and Ben Follow Robin on Twitter:

1 Comment on Your Problem With Guns or Gays Is Not Political

  1. How eloquently and insightfully stated. Having been to England a couple times and spending a little time in London it was refreshing to me to see a pensioner woman sitting beside someone with a multi-colored mohawk discussing gardening. My British friends seem more tolerant and sensible about social issues. Just as some say, the personal is political and the converse and as a gay person in a 31 year committed relationship with a majority of heterosexual friends, I stand by what you say. Getting to know those “others” instead of ascribing to a particular political group’s dogmas really points out that we share much more in common than in difference.

    I was raised in a home where hunting and fishing were a way of life and not knowing how to properly and safely use a gun without harming someone was something each of us had to do as we attended gun safety courses and went to the range. As I grew up and became more political and lived in cities my opinions about guns changed and surprisingly they have changed back to those of my youth. In a business my partner and I had for 15 years a customer pulled me aside and told me he’d had not idea we were gay and had always had negative views of gay people. He said that getting to know us and then discovering we are gay it really changed his feelings and he apologized for his prior opinions. I said “no apology necessary – it took a lot of courage for you to come forward and take the risk of being honest and I admire that.” He and his wife were two of our best customers and although we did not advertise our orientation on our sleeves we also were honest if asked and did not pretend to be straight. This underscores what you are saying.

    The wedge issues promulgated through the government-military-industrial corporate complex keeps us infighting about things that have little effect on our lives so that we do not see by using this divisive subterfuge they can operate in a clandestine manner without us even noticing them. I hope and think that is changing and people are starting to awaken to the unlawful, unconstitutional and unethical things that effect and will continue to effect our lives in a profoundly negative manner. Thanks for writing your piece. I could not agree with you more and our impressions gel. Much luck to you and yours.

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